Reality Star’s Wedding Guest Dress Sparks Fierce Family Etiquette Debate

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• Dolores Catania of “The Real Housewives of New Jersey” wore a pale blue, heavily embellished gown to her son’s wedding in Portugal
• The dress sparked hundreds of online comments debating whether it was too close to white for appropriate wedding guest attire
• Traditional wedding etiquette discourages guests from wearing white or colors that could photograph as white to avoid upstaging the bride

A reality television personality has found herself at the center of a heated online debate about wedding etiquette after her choice of attire at her son’s nuptials. Dolores Catania, known for her role on “The Real Housewives of New Jersey,” posted several photos of herself wearing a pale blue, dramatically embellished gown at her son Frank Catania Jr.’s wedding to Nicole Perricho in Portugal.

The dress choice quickly became a topic of intense discussion on social media. A post in the BravoRealHousewives subreddit titled “Dolores wore white to her son’s wedding” drew hundreds of comments from users debating whether the mother of the groom had committed a significant etiquette violation.

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“Of course she did. She wanted to upstage the bride…”

“She’s already the ‘TV personality,’ the least she could do is try to dress subtle and keep a low profile to give the girl her day. But alas, monster-in-law it is.”

“I mean, I expected nothing less.”

“Not a good look.”

The controversy centered on whether the dress was actually white or simply too close to white to be acceptable. Several commenters argued about the precise color of the garment, with opinions varying widely.

“It looks like it has a hint of green, but here’s my thing, WHY do you need to wear something so close to white on this day? Any other color isn’t good enough at someone else’s wedding?”

“It wasn’t white, it was like a light blue. Personally, I stay away from pale colors like that for weddings because they can photograph white like this.”

“Not defending it at all, it’s definitely way too close to white on any day….but it looks a little silver to me?”

“As an experienced TV personality, she should know how things photograph. She wanted the limelight, end of story.”

The debate touches on longstanding traditions in American wedding culture. White became the standard color for Western bridal gowns relatively recently in historical terms. Before the mid-19th century, many Western brides simply wore the best dress they owned, often one they had worn before.

In 1840, Queen Victoria captured the public’s attention when she wore a white satin gown to marry Prince Albert. This royal wedding helped establish the tradition that continues to this day. Before that, Western brides commonly wore gowns in a range of colors and patterns.

Due partly to economic progress and the rise of the middle classes, by the late 1800s, the white wedding gown became the expected choice for most brides. The tradition has held strong in American culture, where weddings remain important family and community celebrations.

The Emily Post Institute addresses modern brides considering non-white dresses: “Today, if you choose a dress that is not a shade of white, you aren’t breaking a rule of etiquette. However, when considering veering from the tradition, recognize that your choice may draw attention away from the purpose of the day or be upsetting to others from older generations.”

The institute advises brides to “take into account the big picture (both your personal taste and its effect on others) when making this important decision.” This same principle applies to wedding guests, who are expected to respect traditional etiquette by avoiding colors that could upstage the bride.

Wedding-planning site The Knot recommends that guests check the couple’s wedding website for information about the wedding party’s colors and consult the invitation for details about the dress code. This helps ensure guests make appropriate choices that honor the couple being married.

Etiquette expert Diane Gottsman has said certain formal colors can be appropriate for the mother of the bride as long as the dress “doesn’t look like you are the one getting married,” and the bride approves. Clear communication between family members about wedding attire expectations can help avoid potential conflicts and ensure everyone feels comfortable celebrating the couple’s special day.

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